Social Confidence is about sitting in the Fire
What Shame?
Entering into social situations as a fully here and now present man, is something that few can really do. The key to high level social confidence is 100% knowing thy self and begin absolutely okay with that self. The scale of consciousness is extremely key here and should be noted. Often people who exhibit low confidence in social settings are stuck in a loop of not trusting ones self, not trusting their body, their word or their own intuition.
You’re like a walking energy body that is constantly changing its state by every thought, action and belief you assemble. Doing things that bring you shame and guilt hang around you energy field forever until you clear it or stop doing the thing bringing it on. It could be lying, binging, lusting, cheating whatever it is, the energy field of U will not lie on your behalf, just because you want to appear confident.
When your energy body becomes clearer and cleaner you become and transparent mirror for other people to see their own reflection. Deep presence invites those around you to sit in the fire of their own muddy puddle. Any lower frequencies held by others will be instantly engaged and many can “act out” the way this typically looks is the following:
Making insecure jokes about you
Shallow eye contact
Neediness to prove themselves
Aggression
Emotional shutdown
Intimidation
Jealousy & Envy
The reason I say being socially confident is about sitting in the fire is exactly because at times the spot light will be on you, if you have a deeper raw presence than most, people tend to listen. Any insecurities you hold will need to be incinerated in your fire. Yet the clearer you are the hotter that fire burns meaning the more confidence you exude.
You speak louder, deeper more concisely, you hold raw eye contact, you ask probing, fun questions, you do not become small just to appease others, you walk firmly and in direction. You approach whoever you like, say what you want, voice your opinions, don’t let anyone or anything prevent you from acting without authenticity.
You don’t try to impress anyone or prove anything, you just are. You become a pure vessel for NRG.
One of the most prominent thoughts that calibrates its self for your ability to lean into that confident character is this: A you actively going in the direction you really want ?
Meaning are you taking actions towards building the life you truly desire, because without it you fall prey to undercutting your own self worth by essentially lying to yourself. I want this but I don’t do that.. This causes a rift in your psyche a certain un-trustworthiness that manifests as low confidence. People won’t know what it is, yet they will be able to tell.
On the other hand if you really go all in on the life you want, the character you desire etc speak your truth without holding back you create a momentous energy that follows you around, pushes you to take more risks and inevitably the universe is more on your side, gifting you endlessly.
Most of the time everything comes back to brutal honesty with yourself.
Are you really being 100 honest with yourself or are you lying so a smaller part of you can win? If you evaluate this frequently clarity reigns in.